10 Relationship Green Flags

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Relationships are complex and multifaceted. They require understanding, tolerance, and patience from both parties.

Knowing the healthy signs of what makes a healthy loving relationship and green flags indicate that your relationship is happy and safe.

Whether you are in a new relationship or have been in one for a long time, identifying the positive aspects or ‘green flags’ of a relationship can be as important as being aware of the red flags.

These green flags signify a healthy and loving relationship.

Here are ten relationship green flags that everyone should look for in their intimate relationships.


1. You feel safe to say how you feel

One of the most essential green flags in a relationship is the freedom and safety to express your feelings without fear of judgement or backlash. You should feel comfortable expressing your emotions, whether they’re positive or negative, to your partner. This open communication is a significant sign of a healthy relationship.

2. Your opinion is valued

Having your opinions valued and respected is another green flag in a relationship. Your partner should always be interested in your thoughts and opinions, even when they differ from their own. This shows that your partner respects your individuality and values your perspective.

3. You can communicate your wants and needs

Communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. You should be able to openly discuss your desires and needs with your partner. This communication should not be one-sided; both partners should be able to express their wants and needs freely.

4. You are spoken to and treated with respect

Respect is fundamental in a relationship. If your partner speaks to you with kindness and treats you with the dignity you deserve, it’s a clear sign that they respect you. This respect should extend to all aspects of your relationship, from everyday interactions to larger decisions.

5. You don’t have to ask for kindness

Kindness should be a default setting in any relationship. If your partner is consistently kind to you without you having to ask for it, it’s a great sign. This kindness can manifest in numerous ways, from small acts of consideration to grand gestures of love.

6. Your physical boundaries are respected

Respect for physical boundaries is a critical green flag in a relationship. Your partner should always respect your personal space and never force you into anything you’re uncomfortable with. They should also be understanding and accepting when you express a need for space.

7. You can disagree without fear of consequences

Disagreements are inevitable in any relationship. However, you should be able to express your disagreement without fear of retaliation or punishment. If you and your partner can disagree respectfully and work through your differences constructively, it’s a sign of a strong, healthy relationship.

8. You can share how you feel

Sharing your feelings openly and honestly is another vital green flag. Your partner should be someone you can confide in, someone who will listen to your concerns without judgment. They should be understanding and supportive when you’re going through tough times.

9. You have a sense of safety

Feeling safe, both emotionally and physically, is paramount in a relationship. If your partner makes you feel secure and protected, it’s a big green flag. This sense of safety can provide a solid foundation for your relationship to flourish.

10. You are encouraged and supported

Lastly, your partner should be your biggest cheerleader. They should encourage you to pursue your passions and support you in achieving your goals. This support can greatly enhance your self-confidence and overall happiness in the relationship.

Green flags are just as important to recognise in a relationship as red flags.

They signify a healthy, balanced relationship where both parties feel respected, valued, and loved. Always remember, a relationship is a partnership where both parties should feel equally important, heard, and appreciated.


I’m Lizandra, a psychotherapist based in St Albans who works with clients online to overcome childhood trauma and attachment issues in relationships. Join my mailing list to get your free guide on healthy relationships and to keep up to date with the latest news. 

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