Introducing the Inner Critic

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Our inner critic is usually that overly harsh internal voice that makes us feel like we’re getting it wrong, we don’t fit in, what we’ve just said sounds stupid. If you’ve ever stopped to listen to your internal dialogue, you’re probably aware that not all of the thoughts we have about ourselves are very kind. If you’ve ever heard your internal voice telling you that you were stupid for making a mistake, or that you shouldn’t do something, then you’ll be familiar with the inner critic.

What Beyoncè can teach you about Boundaries

Arguably, Beyoncé is one of the greatest entertainers of our time (although who wants to really argue this point) and although her performing ability is pretty amazing, that’s not what I’m referring to.
Recently in Harper’s Bazaar magazine Beyonce was asked: how do you process celebrity culture and protect your inner self?
Her response was golden.

Boundaries at Christmas


Anytime is a good time to think about boundaries but boundaries at Christmas might just be what helps you to get through the feeling of impending doom.
There is something about being confined to a small space with your family. With no escape to the shops, and alcohol at the ready, it’s a common occurrence for family festivities to turn into a full on family argument. Eastenders didn’t get their explosie Christmas episodes from nothing.

What you need to know about boundaries

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Boundaries are what shows others what we will and won’t accept and is based on our own personal experiences and values.

Everyone needs to set boundaries. Boundaries are essential to healthy relationships and a healthy life.
Unfortunately, setting and sustaining boundaries is a skill not many have mastered. For a lot of people, setting boundaries is still a challenge.
Having healthy boundaries means knowing and understanding what your limits are.

Here’s why you don’t set healthy boundaries

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Healthy boundaries are important for our wellbeing and relationships as it teaches others how we expect to be treated. When we value our time, physical and personal boundaries, it shows that we value our self worth. People are more likely to respect our boundaries when we are able to make it clear what we will and will not accept. 

10 Signs You Should See a Therapist

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10 signs you should see a therapist   A common question I am often asked during client intake is, how do you know it’s the right time to see a therapist.    Maybe you’ve been thinking about therapy for a while.   Or perhaps your anxiety has reached a peak level. You can’t control how often you […]

Relationship Green Flags for a Healthy Relationship

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Relationship Green Flags for a Healthy Relationship  What makes a healthy relationship? Believe it or not, this question in therapy comes up often and it’s a valid and very important question to ask. It’s not just about physical attraction, or that you have things in common. When there are things happening in a relationship that […]

What to expect in your first counselling session


What to expect in your first counselling session If you’ve never had counselling before, it can feel quite daunting if you don’t know what to expect in your first counselling session. Starting the counselling process is a big step, it might be that you’ve been considering for a long time that you there are some areas […]

Stress – how to manage your time effectively

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Stress – how to manage your time effectively Workplace stress and anxiety is becoming more prevalent and is a common concern in the UK. Statistics show that up to 13.4 million working days are lost in a year due to stress and eighty-five per cent of adults in the UK experience stress on a regular basis. We […]