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Dealing with Loss at Christmas

Christmas can be an amazing and festive time to be with those you love – but for those dealing with loss and bereavement, it can also be a painful reminder and a heart wrenching time of year. Grief and loss is one of the most difficult life experiences …

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Six signs to spot depression

We’ve all heard the statistic that 1 in 4 people will suffer from anxiety and depression each year. Thanks to public campaigns such as Rethink Mental Health and Heads

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How to Recognise Anxious Thoughts

Do you tend to have a lot of anxious thoughts? Do you find it difficult to escape from negative thoughts? Does your anxiety hold you back from stepping out of your comfort zone or doing things differently? 

We spend a lot of time in our own heads, hearing and becoming a symptom of our own negative thinking, which is why it’s so important that our internal dialogue is in a nice place to be.
When those thoughts become increasingly anxious, or negative it can impact the way that you feel about yourself, how you view the world and your relationships. 

When you develop the ability to slow things down and recognise your anxious thoughts, it can help you to learn more about your anxiety.

Why do I need to know more about anxiety when I’m just trying to get rid of it, you might ask.

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Why Venting Hurts Your Relationship

We all use venting as a coping strategy when we’re feeling frustrated by the actions of another.
It’s not uncommon to vent when somebody has made you feel upset or hurt, we use this space to have our voices heard and to hopefully reduce some of the negative tension associated with the conflict.

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5 Reasons why you’re not into Self Care

The self-care talk has become somewhat of a cliché, bloggers are talking about it, social media influencers, coaches, but what exactly is self care and why is it such an integral part of your wellbeing and relationships?

The cliché is that it is all about treating yo’self, chocolates, bubble baths, that sort of thing, which is still a good thing, who can say no to scented candles and chocolates? These are all lovely ways to spend more time focusing on treating yourself with love and care.

In a way that can be somewhat superficial, self care has been diluted into focusing on what we can give to ourselves externally.

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5 Ways to Manage Anxiety During the Coronavirus

The Coronavirus talk is everywhere, it’s inescapable at the moment and it is a particularly difficult time all around, particularly for those with preexisting health conditions or those who are vulnerable. 

The mass panic of the COVID-19 might feel like a stretch to some, but health anxiety is very real and can become even more difficult to manage during a time of crisis. You can follow the NHS health guidelines here.

For those with high anxiety, particularly health anxiety, this can be a real cause of concern because at the moment, the health implications are very real and that can be really hard to rationalise. 

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The Truth about Narcissism

Narcissism has become a more commonly used term in recent years, being narcissistic is often thought of as vanity or being self obsessed, but the roots of narcissism and how this can impact relationships is much deeper than this.

The relational impact of being around somebody who has narcissistic traits can be extremely damaging to your self esteem, self worth and mental health.
Narcissistic emotional abuse is extremely common but it rarely talked about openly, fuelling the unfair feeling of shame for the person who has been the victim of this form of emotional abuse.

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Why you need to know about Attachment in Relationships

We all have our own attachment style in relationships and having a basic understanding of attachment is a really helpful tool to negotiate the intricacies of intimate relationships.
Knowing your attachment style helps you to identify your own role within relationships, in terms of what your own needs are and how to recognise your relational emotional wounds.
This means developing your self awareness and understanding what some of your tiggers in relationships might be.

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How to Survive a Toxic Family Christmas

Christmas can be a really exciting time of the year for some. If you have a toxic family full of tension and conflict, the idea of everybody coming together, to sit around and be in close company for the whole day can be enough to make you break into a cold sweat.
Christmas with the family can feel quite contained and the environment is quite isolating, even when the family dynamics are not particularly toxic.
The streets become eerily quiet and with everything on hiatus it can feel like a sense of being trapped, so it’s important to know what you can do and how you can survive a toxic family Christmas without completely losing your sanity.

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How to Escape the Drama Triangle

The drama triangle: Engaging in the same pattern of destructive behaviours during times of conflict.
Do you find yourself stuck in certain relationships where you continue to have the same negative repetitive behaviours?
You have most likely observed this toxic dynamic within reality television (any pick of the Housewives reality shows, Love Island and Celebrity Big Brother spring to mind), after reading this blog you’ll begin to recognise it within your own relational encounters too.
The Drama Triangle is a self destructive, infuriating and an unhealthy way to resolve conflict.

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5 Tips on How You Can Help with Depression

Depression is the most predominant mental health condition worldwide. 

The symptoms of depression include feeling extremely low for extended periods of time, low feelings of self worth, hopelessness, lethargy, apathy, loss of appetite and sleep disturbances.

There are also socioeconomic factors which can make people more susceptible or vulnerable to symptoms of depression such as belonging to black, asian or ethnic minority groups, young males, the LGBTQ+ community, victims of abuse, having learning disabilities, substance abuse and homelessness. 

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