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Gratitude in Relationships

When was the last time you openly expressed gratitude in your relationship? 
Yesterday, last week, last month even. 
If you have to spend longer than a moment to think about it, this is probably an area where you can begin to actively put in some time and effort in expressing gratitude with your partner. 
I get it’s probably not at the top of your list of priorities, there’s your work/life balance to consider, the everyday household tasks, trying to keep yourself healthy, maintain a social life, maybe you have kids, kids that are so young that all you are thinking about is getting a good nights sleep, never mind telling your wo(man) what a great job they’re doing.
I get it, life is busy and you’re juggling more than a handful of things at the moment. 
That doesn’t mean your relationship should become neglected or forgotten about as a result. 

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4 Toxic Behaviours in Relationships

Toxic behaviours within a relationship can be one the main factors why a couple in crisis will seek relationship therapy or marriage guidance. When a couple is unable to break the pattern of conflict it is usually then that they will seek professional support to help them to navigate their way back to a healthy relationship. 

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Choosing the right therapist

The Power of Authenticity

With the power of authenticity, we have the power to be our true selves, evolving, messy, complicated, loving and a whole lot more. 
We all have different faces or personas that we present to the world, we have different aspects or different versions of who we are, it’s a part of being human that we’re full of complexities and paradox contradictions.  
There’s who you are with friends; relaxed, funny, happy, who you are with your family; dependable, loving, loyal, who you are at work, professional, rational, reliable. 
These parts are all versions that make up who we are, it’s what makes us individual, unique, it gives us our idiosyncrasies, personality and develops our sense of self.

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Common Myths About Counselling

As a psychotherapist in private practice and a mental health advocate, I feel counselling is still stigmatised, largely because it is misunderstood, misrepresented and highly undervalued. In recent years there has been an increase in public awareness and an understanding of how important the role of therapy can play in overall mental health and wellbeing.

Despite this, there are still a number of common myths about counselling that either prevents people from seeking out counselling and psychotherapy, talking about therapy, or openly discussing when they are in the process of counselling.

There are a lot of misconceptions from the media and other sources about counselling and what you can expect when going to see a therapist.

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Free Self Care Survival Tips

The term Self Care is becoming a common phenomena with many of its own hashtags #selfcare #selfcaresaturday #selfcaresunday are just a few with plenty of more out there in the world of social media. No doubt you would heard the term used before, but with all this talk of self care, what does it actually mean and how does it help people who want to look better and feel better about themselves?  I often share with my clients the importance of self care and why it’s necessary to incorporate it as part of a healthy lifestyle whenever it is possible, including those times where there seems to be barriers or challenges preventing you from practicing self care.It can be particularly useful to those who are already struggling with mental health issues and find it difficult to identify when some of their own basic needs are not being met, no matter how small. 

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How (NOT) to get over a broken heart

Whether or not you are into the sentiment, Valentine’s Day is fast approaching. It’s a difficult occasion to miss with every high street chain offering dine in meals for two, deals on flowers, chocolates, its rather inescapable. 
You may have a heightened awareness of it all if you’ve recently ended a relationship and you are living with a broken heart. 
Ending a relationship can be difficult, particularly if it’s not something you were prepared for or wanted. 
This may sound extreme, but the end of a relationship is very similar to the grieving process and what that means to come to terms with and accept your loss. 

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Couples Counselling It Takes Two

If you are in a stage in your relationship where every discussion you have with your partner turns into an argument or disagreement, seeking outside professional help in the form of couples counselling might be an another issue where you disagree.
One partner may be feeling more hopeless about the relationship, for them seeking professional help is the last attempt before considering ending the relationship all together.

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Resolutions

Reframing New Years Resolutions

Show of hands if you’ve ever made a new years resolution, only for it to be out the window before the end of January?

Trust me, you are not the only one – I realised years ago that the real key to change does not only start at the beginning of a new year.

The truth is, ANYTIME is a good time to make change, it’s not about jumping on the bandwagon with the new fad and what everybody else is doing, but identifying what is right for you. 

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What to expect in your first counselling session

Starting the counselling process is a big step, it might be that you’ve been considering for a long time that you there are some areas that you would like some help with. Perhaps you have suffered with depression, anxiety or low self esteem for years but you’ve been trying to cope with it alone.

Often, asking for help comes at a point of crisis, you’ve tried everything that you can but your usual coping methods that offered short-term relief are no longer working.

The good news is that counsellors are generally aware of how daunting it can be contacting a counsellor for the first time – most counsellors as part of their training undergo the process of psychotherapy and have experienced what it feels like to be on the other side.

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Stress – how to manage your time effectively

Workplace stress and anxiety is becoming more prevalent and is a common concern in the UK. Statistics show that up to 12.5 million working days are lost in a year due to stress and eighty-five per cent of adults in the UK experience stress on a regular basis.

We all encounter that feeling of stress and overwhelm when we have a lot to do. Our time is spread very thinly between working pressures, family commitments and the rush of fast paced living, which is prevalent in western society. There is an expectation to be busy, productive and to be able to deliver these results consistently.

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Gratitude

Couples and Relationship Counselling

Being in a long-term committed relationship doesn’t come without its’ challenges. My experience as a counsellor and psychotherapist suggests that when couples seek the help of a professional it means that either individually or as part of the couple, you have tried everything you can to improve or make changes in the relationship without much change or success. Now you are at crisis point.

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Top Ten Tips to Relieve Anxiety

Anxiety is a normal emotion that we all experience, during times of excited anticipation, or at times of being under extreme stress or threat.
Not all anxiety is bad, it is in fact a healthy emotion that we all need as a means of self-preservation and knowing when we might be in danger so that we can respond appropriately.
An acute response to threat is also known as the fight or flight response, this is the feeling we experience when we are faced with something physically or mentally challenging and is a natural human response.

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