What you need to know about boundaries

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Boundaries are what shows others what we will and won’t accept and is based on our own personal experiences and values.

Everyone needs to set boundaries. Boundaries are essential to healthy relationships and a healthy life.
Unfortunately, setting and sustaining boundaries is a skill not many have mastered. For a lot of people, setting boundaries is still a challenge.
Having healthy boundaries means knowing and understanding what your limits are.

Here’s why you don’t set healthy boundaries

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Healthy boundaries are important for our wellbeing and relationships as it teaches others how we expect to be treated. When we value our time, physical and personal boundaries, it shows that we value our self worth. People are more likely to respect our boundaries when we are able to make it clear what we will and will not accept. 

Why you need to set healthy boundaries in relationships

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If you want to have healthy relationships, then being able to establish healthy boundaries with those around you is essential.  We all want to feel valued and respected in our relationships and not made to feel as though we don’t matter or our needs are not important.  Setting healthy boundaries is a form of self […]

Free Self Care Survival Tips

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The term Self Care is becoming a common phenomena with many of its own hashtags #selfcare #selfcaresaturday #selfcaresunday are just a few with plenty of more out there in the world of social media. No doubt you would heard the term used before, but with all this talk of self care, what does it actually mean and how does it help people who want to look better and feel better about themselves?  I often share with my clients the importance of self care and why it’s necessary to incorporate it as part of a healthy lifestyle whenever it is possible, including those times where there seems to be barriers or challenges preventing you from practicing self care.It can be particularly useful to those who are already struggling with mental health issues and find it difficult to identify when some of their own basic needs are not being met, no matter how small. 

The impossible task of people pleasing

The Impossible Task of People Pleasing 

We’ve all been there, agreed to do something or other to help out a friend, a family member or a colleague despite being overexerted and pushed for time. At first, you are more than happy to help, being there for others is meaningful to you, it gives you purpose and it makes up a large part of who you are. But what happens when saying yes comes at a cost to you? Maybe you literally just don’t have the time, your plate is already full, you’re exhausted and thinking about when, if ever, you will get to have a break. Creating some time and space that is just for you is near impossible.