10 Relationship Green Flags

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Relationships are complex and multifaceted. They require understanding, tolerance, and patience from both parties. Knowing the healthy signs of what makes a healthy loving relationship and green flags indicate that your relationship is happy and safe.

Signs of a Narcissistic Father

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Growing up with a narcissistic father can be a challenging and emotionally taxing experience. The kind of relationship you have with your father is often the blueprint for how you have future relationships with men. When this relationship is fragmented, it can negatively impact your perception of relationships. It can be difficult to trust or […]

Why Venting Hurts Your Relationship

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We all use venting as a coping strategy when we’re feeling frustrated by the actions of another.
It’s not uncommon to vent when somebody has made you feel upset or hurt, we use this space to have our voices heard and to hopefully reduce some of the negative tension associated with the conflict.

The Truth about Narcissism

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Narcissism has become a more commonly used term in recent years, being narcissistic is often thought of as vanity or being self obsessed, but the roots of narcissism and how this can impact relationships is much deeper than this.

The relational impact of being around somebody who has narcissistic traits can be extremely damaging to your self esteem, self worth and mental health.
Narcissistic emotional abuse is extremely common but it rarely talked about openly, fuelling the unfair feeling of shame for the person who has been the victim of this form of emotional abuse.

How to Survive a Toxic Family Christmas

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Christmas can be a really exciting time of the year for some. If you have a toxic family full of tension and conflict, the idea of everybody coming together, to sit around and be in close company for the whole day can be enough to make you break into a cold sweat.
Christmas with the family can feel quite contained and the environment is quite isolating, even when the family dynamics are not particularly toxic.
The streets become eerily quiet and with everything on hiatus it can feel like a sense of being trapped, so it’s important to know what you can do and how you can survive a toxic family Christmas without completely losing your sanity.

How to Escape the Drama Triangle

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The drama triangle: Engaging in the same pattern of destructive behaviours during times of conflict.
Do you find yourself stuck in certain relationships where you continue to have the same negative repetitive behaviours?
You have most likely observed this toxic dynamic within reality television (any pick of the Housewives reality shows, Love Island and Celebrity Big Brother spring to mind), after reading this blog you’ll begin to recognise it within your own relational encounters too.
The Drama Triangle is a self destructive, infuriating and an unhealthy way to resolve conflict.

4 Toxic Behaviours in Relationships

Toxic behaviours within a relationship can be one the main factors why a couple in crisis will seek relationship therapy or marriage guidance. When a couple is unable to break the pattern of conflict it is usually then that they will seek professional support to help them to navigate their way back to a healthy relationship. 

The Power of Authenticity

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With the power of authenticity, we have the power to be our true selves, evolving, messy, complicated, loving and a whole lot more. 
We all have different faces or personas that we present to the world, we have different aspects or different versions of who we are, it’s a part of being human that we’re full of complexities and paradox contradictions.  
There’s who you are with friends; relaxed, funny, happy, who you are with your family; dependable, loving, loyal, who you are at work, professional, rational, reliable. 
These parts are all versions that make up who we are, it’s what makes us individual, unique, it gives us our idiosyncrasies, personality and develops our sense of self.

Free Self Care Survival Tips

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The term Self Care is becoming a common phenomena with many of its own hashtags #selfcare #selfcaresaturday #selfcaresunday are just a few with plenty of more out there in the world of social media. No doubt you would heard the term used before, but with all this talk of self care, what does it actually mean and how does it help people who want to look better and feel better about themselves?  I often share with my clients the importance of self care and why it’s necessary to incorporate it as part of a healthy lifestyle whenever it is possible, including those times where there seems to be barriers or challenges preventing you from practicing self care.It can be particularly useful to those who are already struggling with mental health issues and find it difficult to identify when some of their own basic needs are not being met, no matter how small.