Moving Past Self Awareness in Attachment Healing

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Are you very self aware but still get stuck on feeling triggered and insecure in your relationships? 

People who are self aware are often excellent at intellectualising their feelings. What this does is take people away from feeling emotions.

This leads to having all of the insight and information, but not knowing how to transfer self awareness into actual change. 

This blog is going to give you three key things that helps you to move past self awareness so that you can embody healing and feeling more securely attached in your relationships. 


Relationship Struggles 

Have you ever felt like once you’ve found “the one,” all your relationship issues would magically disappear?

You dive headfirst into love, leaving behind past baggage and committing to a future of bliss.

But then reality hits.

Despite your self-awareness and emotional intelligence, relationships still feel like a battleground.

You’re not alone in this struggle.

Many of us thought that understanding ourselves was the key to unlocking perfect relationships.

We recognise our past mistakes, learn about toxic behaviours like gaslighting and narcissism, and promise ourselves to do better next time.

Yet, despite all this knowledge, we find ourselves stuck in the same patterns of heartache and disappointment.

Why is that?

Self-awareness is undoubtedly valuable, but it’s only the tip of the iceberg.

It’s like having a map without a compass. You know where you’ve been wronged and why you react the way you do, but understanding alone doesn’t heal the wounds or break the cycle of unhealthy patterns.


Healing from Trauma

The truth is, you can’t outthink trauma or attachment issues.

Our bodies and brains don’t operate solely on intellect.

They require emotional healing and regulation.

It’s not just about knowing why you feel the way you do; it’s about actively working to change those responses and behaviours.

So, what’s the solution?


Three Crucial Steps 

It’s time to shift the focus from mere self-awareness to emotional mastery. It involves three crucial steps:

  1. Mastering Your Emotions: This goes beyond surface-level coping mechanisms. It’s about diving deep into your emotional landscape and developing resilience in the face of challenges.

  2. Identifying Your Triggers: Understanding what sets off your emotional responses is the first step to gaining control over them. It’s about recognising patterns and preemptively addressing them.

  3. Regulating Your Nervous System: Emotional regulation is the cornerstone of healthy relationships. It’s about finding inner peace and stability, even amidst chaos.

But let’s be clear: it’s not about quick fixes or superficial solutions. It’s about cultivating emotional wisdom that permeates every aspect of your being. It’s about building unshakable self-worth and boundaries that protect your heart without closing it off from love.

You see, true healing comes from within. It’s about transforming your relationship with yourself before seeking it in others.

It’s about becoming the kind of person who attracts healthy relationships effortlessly.

So, if you’re tired of reliving the same old patterns and ready to embark on a journey of deep mind-body healing, I invite you to join us at Secure: Attachment and Relationship Transformation.

It’s not just another self-help program; it’s a holistic approach to reclaiming your sense of security and fulfilment in all areas of life.

Ready to take the first step towards a healthier, more secure future? Apply now, and let’s embark on this transformative journey together.


I’m Lizandra, an online psychotherapist who specialises in relational trauma and healing from childhood wounds. My program Secure helps to transform insecure attachment to Secure and healthy love. 

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People who are self aware are often excellent at intellectualising their feelings.
What this does is take people away from feeling emotions.